Strong emotions don’t just affect our minds; they also affect our bodies. You may recall a time that feelings of intense happiness made your pain disappear and gave your heart a sense of lightness. But when we experience loss and tragedy, it can create physical reactions like tears or pain, in addition to the emotional discomfort. The best way to heal from pain caused by loss is to let yourself grieve, an important part of which is crying.
Some of us try very hard to avoid crying. Why is this? Crying is loaded with many connotations - both public and private. It is an embodied proof that we’re going through pain. However, crying means that you’re alive, and it means that you’re healing. So when you feel the stinging in your tear ducts, don’t push it back. Let it out and get it out of your system!
Crying is an important part of the grieving process, which is just that — a process. You can only take it one day at a time. Look back at how far you’ve come in coping with your loss. As each moment passes, your heart and your spirit will mend a little more. Crying may be just one phase in your process, or it might accompany you through until your heart has healed. The important thing to remember is that crying and grieving are your body and mind’s ways of healing themselves from the pain of your loss. Trust in yourself and your inner knowledge; your body will tell you that you’re closer to healing when you don’t cry as often as you did.
However, please remember, that throughout it all, your deceased loved ones truly are okay, and would want you to eventually be, too!
Many blessings to you!