As a medium, it’s often part of my job to hear the words people regret not having said – whether those people are alive or have passed. Many people come into my office saying they never told those in their lives the things they needed to say to them. Sometimes they didn’t tell them just how much they loved and appreciated them. Other times they wished they had forgiven them or asked forgiveness from them. Because of words left unsaid or actions not done, they carry their regrets with them for their entire lives (and beyond).
I’ve heard the same story so many times that, I began to wonder how our lives would be different if we just said it. Whatever “it” is. So I held an experiment for those who wanted to write letters to the most important people in their lives, and if they felt guided, to send these letters to their recipients.
In Through The Eyes of Another, I explain that when we pass on, we will see each of our actions (or inactions) through the eyes of the people whom those actions affected. With these letters I hoped to jump-start the process of that life review, doing it now – before it’s too late, to express our love, forgiveness, and understanding on this plane of existence.
There were four types of letters: letters of gratitude, letters of forgiveness, letters to oneself, and letters to our deceased loved ones. The results of the letters turned out to be better than I had ever anticipated! One of the women who wrote these letters to her family mentioned that her therapist told her that the letter writing had done in one month what years of therapy couldn’t even come close to!
I encourage you to write letters to the most important people in your lives. If it’s a letter of appreciation, tell them all the wonderful things you love about them. If it’s a forgiveness letter, try to see through their eyes why they did what they did, and tell them you now understand. If you want them to forgive you, tell them that you never intentionally tried to hurt them, but you did nonetheless. Write a letter to yourself too, as if you are writing to someone else, and tell yourself why you are proud of who you are, and what you can do to make your own life better. If it is too late and your loved ones have already died, you can write them a letter too. Just make sure to ask them to give you “without a doubt” signs so you know without a doubt they read what you have written to them.
So, tell your loved ones how much you love them now, and forgive those you believe have wronged you. Ask forgiveness from those you may have hurt. And make sure to treat yourself with the love and respect that you deserve. By doing all this, you will be creating peace in your life and in the lives around you. You’ll be creating heaven – right here on earth!
Many Blessings to you!