You may be feeling that you should have done something differently to have prevented their death—or you may believe that you didn’t carry out their wishes the way they wanted, didn’t treat them the way you should have, or could have spent more time with them.
If you’re feeling guilty for anything you did or didn’t do, please understand that your deceased loved ones are in a place of complete love, where blame no longer exists. They actually see the bigger perspective; that is, they are able to understand your actions completely.
During the writing of this book, I taught a class on how to communicate with angels and deceased loved ones. During the class, the mother of a student named Anthony came through and talked to him about her being buried without her rings. (Apparently, when she was still alive, she had instructed him that she wanted to be buried wearing her wedding and engagement rings. He decided to give the rings to his daughter instead, and had been holding on to this guilt for over eight years!) His mother gave him the message that she doesn’t need the rings where she is now and understands why he chose to give them to his daughter. She went on to tell her son how much she loved him and that he should stop feeling guilty. Of course, he was so relieved to hear this message and told me that he’s finally able to move on with his life again.
Another source of guilt for many people is that they believe they could have prevented their loved one’s passing. Despite this common feeling, the response from the departed is always that there was nothing anyone could have done that would have prolonged his or her life; it was simply the right time to go. Needless to say, my clients and students breathe a sigh of relief and are so thankful to hear this important message.
Remember, all that exists in the afterlife is unconditional love, total understanding, and blamelessness. This is why it’s important to release all the unnecessary guilt you’ve been carrying around. They’re seeing you through the eyes of love and not pointing the finger at
you for what you’ve done wrong!
from Your Life After Their Death: A Medium’s Guide to Healing After a Loss