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How Thinking Positive Thoughts Can Help to Heal Your Grief

After the death of your loved one, your grief may seem like it will last forever. However, your loved one doesn’t want you to be so sad. With most of the readings I do, the messages that come through are, “I’m fine,” “You don’t need to worry about me,” “I want you to be happy.”

The first step to begin to feel better emotionally is to think positive thoughts. Easier said than done sometimes, I know! If you feel you are not able to think positive thoughts after losing your loved one, play the “Yes, but” game. That is, after you think a negative thought, follow it with, “Yes, but,” and add a statement of something good that came out of it.

For example, you may be thinking of how much you miss your loved one. Then follow that thought with, “Yes, but we had a wonderful life together.” And then continue with even more positive thoughts, such as, “I’m so grateful he or she was in my life.” If you can, follow that with some funny memories you have of your loved one. And then continue to think of more and more positive aspects and memories. In this way, you’ll be focusing on your love and the good times you had with your loved one, instead of his or her absence.

I’m not saying that this will be easy – but it will definitely be worth your effort. Remember, your loved one is okay, and would want you to be, too!

For more suggestions on how to heal after loss, find my new book: Your Life After Their Death: A Medium’s Guide to Healing After Loss.

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