Would you like to know what the single, most useless question that you can ask is?
Here it is: “Why is this happening to me?”
Now let’s be honest… we all tend to think this way, especially when something bad has happened. But asking this question doesn’t help us find a solution; it only transforms our mindset to one of “victimhood.” And it leads us to accept our “fate,” rather than create our own beautiful reality.
If you take a moment to examine your own thought patterns, you will realize that you do indeed spend significant time asking “why?” As in… “Why did this have to happen to me today?” Or “Why did that person have to act so unfairly towards me?” Asking “why?” is useless because it doesn’t help us to take control of our lives. It positions us as victims at the mercy of external forces.
Instead, the question to ask is “what?” As in… “What’s next?” or “What do I DO about this?” This is so important, because it returns control to the individual. Rather than focusing on why something happened, if we are able to focus on what we will DO about it, we have the ability to shape our own reality! We have the ability to experience true peace, and to build our life the way we want it to be.
So what should you do about this? It all comes down to changing your focus. Don’t worry about what has happened in the past. Focus your energy and your thoughts on moving forwards. Focus on shaping your own reality.
I can tell you from personal experience, as well as from what I’ve observed in others, that you DO have the power to create the life you want for yourself. The challenge that you must overcome is the human tendency to focus on your circumstances instead of your response to the circumstances.
It won’t happen overnight, but if you commit yourself to shaping your reality instead of letting your circumstances dictate your life, you’ll be happier and more at peace than ever before. Try it! I know you can do it!
Many blessings to you!